Once upon a time, a man named Plato set forth a set of presumptions about mankind in general and the purpose of men individually within a society and in interaction with a plurality of societies. The book was called The Republic. It described in the most essential way how we function as people groups and why we function in just such a way. The glue that binds the scheme is composed of logic, native intuition, individual interest and the dependence of the individual on community. The pattern described by Plato remains in effect at the very core of our everyday existence, though it is continually assailed by rebellion, a perverse inclination toward all that is contrary, counter-intuitive and ultimately chaotic. We do not like the truth. It is too clean, too pure. It is a deep-seated hatred of self that casts a lunatic shadow over all, angered by the inescapable concept of order. The exception, therefore, is made the rule, such that we may become victims rather than members of the cooperative experience known as life.
Visits
Friday, June 5, 2015
Monday, June 1, 2015
Fishy
I am not wild about food that watches me while I eat it. Never have been. A fished fried with the head on, for instance, ogling the fork every time it descends. Or a bowl of fish soup containing the head as a special honor. This head does worse than just sit there and stare. It swims about the broth as you dip the spoon in. And then tonight there was the baked chicken that my wife brought home from Lombok. Wouldn't want to leave the head behind, no sir. There's something distinctly unsettling about a baked chicken that peeks at you from under the wing that you're eating. Hello there. Are you finding me tasty? Bon appetite!
Thursday, May 28, 2015
Sin
What is sin? It's not what you think, or rather it is what you think, but it's not what you think that you think. Sin is hatred. Sin is bigotry. Sin is murder and the murderous thought. Sin is man's abuse of himself and of other men. Sin is on the tongue and proceeds from the depths of the heart. Sin is that universal human disease that defiles and destroys. It is what eats the corpse of the man before the corpse itself arrives. The living man is the food of sin. It is the lie that justifies the tower of lies and leaves its victims in shallow graves. Sin is not judgement, but that which has already been judged. It is ascribed not by men, but is upon the head of all. It is the absolute equality of error.
A Quote
"If we present man with a concept of man which is not true, we may well corrupt him. When we present him as an automation of reflexes, as a mind-machine, as a bundle of instincts, as a pawn of drives and reactions, as a mere product of instincts, heredity, and environment, we feed the despair to which man is, in any case, already prone. I became acquainted with the last stages of corruption in my second concentration camp in Auschwitz. The gas chambers of Auschwitz were the ultimate consequence of the theory that man is nothing but the product of heredity and environment—or, as the Nazis liked to say, of ‘Blood and Soil.’ I am absolutely convinced that the gas chambers of Auschwitz, Treblinka, and Maidanek were ultimately prepared not in some Ministry or other in Berlin, but rather at the desks and in the lecture halls of nihilistic scientists and philosophers."
—Viktor E. Frankl
—Viktor E. Frankl
Wednesday, May 27, 2015
Headaches
I sure wish they had Vicodin in Indonesia. I'm having these daily headaches that are practically crippling. But it's a no-go, because Vicodin is a narcotic and narcotics are illegal in Indonesia. Back in the old country I used to get 30 double-strength tablets a month. Ah, the good old days. Here they give you paracematol, which is perfectly worhtless.
Tuesday, May 26, 2015
Tropical White House
I suppose that every time I visit a new villa, I end up reckoning that it’s the best I’ve ever been to.
Of course, they can’t all be the best; but, in a particular way, they can be the best at what they are, in an individual rather than a comparative sense. I’m talking about what we might call personality or character – that certain something – or coalescence of somethings – that sets each villa apart from all others, and forms, in those it hosts, a numinous complex of experience and memory that survives long beyond one’s stay, to mix and blend its defining thread to the unfolding fabric of one’s life.
For this reason, I can say with the utmost assurance that you will never visit another villa quite like Rumah Putih, nor can you hope for a more rewarding and enjoyable experience.
The villa is located on the island of Nusa Lembongan, a quick 20-30 minute boat ride from the southern shore of Bali,depending on how fast your choice of fast-boats proves to be. Far from being a natural-born sailor, I prefer as fast as fast gets – although, given the brevity of the seaborne phase of the trip, one hardly has time to become woozy. Before you know it, you’re wading on shore, picking up your bags and heading down the path to your home for the next few days.
Rumah Putih is a cliffside dwelling, so that if you are, as I am, getting a bit on the ‘well-seasoned’ side, you’ll have to take the long stairway at a leisurely pace – but that’s okay. You’re not in any hurry anyway. You’re on vacation, right? And in any case, there will be a staff member there to carry your bags (and you, too, if need be).
But the destination is well worth the climb. And that’s the most perfect of understatements, folks. For, now, you will enter a spacious, airy open area set between two two luxurious dwellings, each having its own cosy, cushy pavilion just at the verge of the overlook to the spreading expanse of the sea, and between the dwellings and pavilions is a stunning blue infinity edge pool, poised upon the lip of the view as if you might swim to the edge and continue into the air itself.
The view from almost every point of the villa takes in the fullness of the horizon – the aquamarine bay and the white sand of the shoreline, tourist and pleasure boats of every colour and size plying the gentle waters, along with traditional jukung boats parked like taxis atop the bubbly surf. Shops and restaurants recline at the edge, interspersed among lush tropical greenery and flora, dotted, as the land rises, by a meandering caravan of festive rooftops, from traditional thatched grass to bright new tile.
Each villa room is fronted by floor to ceiling windows and has a comfy king-size bed with bedside tables. In the rear is a luxuriant bathtub, a counter with twin sinks and then an private outdoor shower with pleasant greenery. Naturally, the rooms are air-conditioned and each has, as well, a powerful ceiling fan.
The name, Rumah Putih, in the Indonesian language, means, simply, White House, and the simplicity fits well with the clean, crisp lines of the villa and its dominant white colour, offset by the rustic brown of the thatched pavilion roofs, the mild green hues of the living room sofas and, of course, the stark, fresh blue of the pool, which, at night, is lit from beneath like a soft velvet carpet – a flying one, if you like to imagine.
Above this area are two additional dwellings, also with a pool and other special touches – but one would hardly know they were there, but for the presence of a service staircase near the villa entryway. These upper villas have their own private entrance and interfere in no way with the units below.
At the rear of your villa grounds is a spacious seating area as well as a dining area with a table with six seatings. Two delightful staff members, Ketut and Ika, will cook breakfast, lunch and dinner – and the spicy, authentic Balinese dinner is not to be missed! They produce their culinary creations in a full kitchen, which includes a walk-in freezer – just in case you want to stay for a year or two (and you will!).
But there’s more to come, for beyond the dining and kitchen area, you will find a private theater with a large screen TV, Blue Ray, Apple TV and DVD options, along with three rows of lazy-boy chairs and appropriate moviegoer lighting.
People come to Lembongan for any number of reasons – to surf, to go snorkeling, or wind surfing, or just to explore the shops and the shoreline. We came to relax, and that we did, in high style! It is difficult to describe the sense of ease one feels, the fading of cares, even of time itself, as if the common old world had been sipped up and swallowed by the lazy sun and left you floating in a timeless paradise – just exactly as you had always imagined it might be. I feel confident in guaranteeing that your stay at Rumah Putih will be the purest delight. Most probably, it will also be too short!
Of course, they can’t all be the best; but, in a particular way, they can be the best at what they are, in an individual rather than a comparative sense. I’m talking about what we might call personality or character – that certain something – or coalescence of somethings – that sets each villa apart from all others, and forms, in those it hosts, a numinous complex of experience and memory that survives long beyond one’s stay, to mix and blend its defining thread to the unfolding fabric of one’s life.
For this reason, I can say with the utmost assurance that you will never visit another villa quite like Rumah Putih, nor can you hope for a more rewarding and enjoyable experience.
The villa is located on the island of Nusa Lembongan, a quick 20-30 minute boat ride from the southern shore of Bali,depending on how fast your choice of fast-boats proves to be. Far from being a natural-born sailor, I prefer as fast as fast gets – although, given the brevity of the seaborne phase of the trip, one hardly has time to become woozy. Before you know it, you’re wading on shore, picking up your bags and heading down the path to your home for the next few days.
Rumah Putih is a cliffside dwelling, so that if you are, as I am, getting a bit on the ‘well-seasoned’ side, you’ll have to take the long stairway at a leisurely pace – but that’s okay. You’re not in any hurry anyway. You’re on vacation, right? And in any case, there will be a staff member there to carry your bags (and you, too, if need be).
But the destination is well worth the climb. And that’s the most perfect of understatements, folks. For, now, you will enter a spacious, airy open area set between two two luxurious dwellings, each having its own cosy, cushy pavilion just at the verge of the overlook to the spreading expanse of the sea, and between the dwellings and pavilions is a stunning blue infinity edge pool, poised upon the lip of the view as if you might swim to the edge and continue into the air itself.
The view from almost every point of the villa takes in the fullness of the horizon – the aquamarine bay and the white sand of the shoreline, tourist and pleasure boats of every colour and size plying the gentle waters, along with traditional jukung boats parked like taxis atop the bubbly surf. Shops and restaurants recline at the edge, interspersed among lush tropical greenery and flora, dotted, as the land rises, by a meandering caravan of festive rooftops, from traditional thatched grass to bright new tile.
Each villa room is fronted by floor to ceiling windows and has a comfy king-size bed with bedside tables. In the rear is a luxuriant bathtub, a counter with twin sinks and then an private outdoor shower with pleasant greenery. Naturally, the rooms are air-conditioned and each has, as well, a powerful ceiling fan.
The name, Rumah Putih, in the Indonesian language, means, simply, White House, and the simplicity fits well with the clean, crisp lines of the villa and its dominant white colour, offset by the rustic brown of the thatched pavilion roofs, the mild green hues of the living room sofas and, of course, the stark, fresh blue of the pool, which, at night, is lit from beneath like a soft velvet carpet – a flying one, if you like to imagine.
Above this area are two additional dwellings, also with a pool and other special touches – but one would hardly know they were there, but for the presence of a service staircase near the villa entryway. These upper villas have their own private entrance and interfere in no way with the units below.
At the rear of your villa grounds is a spacious seating area as well as a dining area with a table with six seatings. Two delightful staff members, Ketut and Ika, will cook breakfast, lunch and dinner – and the spicy, authentic Balinese dinner is not to be missed! They produce their culinary creations in a full kitchen, which includes a walk-in freezer – just in case you want to stay for a year or two (and you will!).
But there’s more to come, for beyond the dining and kitchen area, you will find a private theater with a large screen TV, Blue Ray, Apple TV and DVD options, along with three rows of lazy-boy chairs and appropriate moviegoer lighting.
People come to Lembongan for any number of reasons – to surf, to go snorkeling, or wind surfing, or just to explore the shops and the shoreline. We came to relax, and that we did, in high style! It is difficult to describe the sense of ease one feels, the fading of cares, even of time itself, as if the common old world had been sipped up and swallowed by the lazy sun and left you floating in a timeless paradise – just exactly as you had always imagined it might be. I feel confident in guaranteeing that your stay at Rumah Putih will be the purest delight. Most probably, it will also be too short!
Monday, May 25, 2015
Who I Am
A little while back, my wife commented that I am different now than I used to be. It was not the first time she had said this, but there seemed something more significant in the way she she said it this time around. Maybe it is because she posed the comment in the form of a question. “Do you realize how different you are now?
In every case, “now” has referred to changes she has perceived in the me who has MS as opposed to the me who did not. The me, in other words, whom she had married in 2006.
As usual, my answer to the comment was brief and essentially dismissive.
Yup, it’s the new, improved me, I said.
She made it clear, in a word or two, that she wasn’t so sure about the improved part, and then the subject trailed off in the usual way, like a wisp of momentary smoke or a passing scent of incense in the air.
Is it something that I don’t want to talk about, or is it something that she doesn’t want to talk about? Is she just making a statement of fact, as far as she sees it, or does she want me to explain myself?
This would require some thought, some introspection, a degree of honesty that might border not only on self-betrayal, but betrayal of all the promises I had made to her and to myself – to us - some eight years ago. I am strong and able. I will take care of you. I will be your strength and never your burden.
Harapan kamu adalah harapan saya; mimipian kamu adalah mimpian saya, I had said to her in her native tongue in my wedding vows. Your hopes are my hopes; your dreams are my dreams.
So where does my weakness, the failure of my body, my unasked for illness fit in to all this? How has it happened that I have become what I said I would not be; and what excuse can I offer?
How, exactly, have I changed? In many ways, I think – and these changes turn out to be a complex mix and intermix of physical disease processes, unwilling but necessary acknowledgement and conscious alterations in emotion, attitude and approach.
Recently, I talked to a friend, and fellow MS’er, about stress and how, over time, we learn to appreciate the detrimental power of its effect on MS. We have either to suffer continual relapses and/or worsening of symptoms or we have to change the way in which we negotiate stress. We protect ourself in the interest of the greatest benefit, and yet we may seem to others, especially to loved ones, suddenly detached, insufficiently concerned. Is this one change that my wife sees in me? Is she disappointed at a seeming unwillingness on my part to to engage in a really good shouting match, as I used to do? Does she take this for a lacking in the intensity of my love?
I don’t know the answer, and she probably doesn’t either.
I do care, of course, but now I try to breath first, take time, take advantage of silence. Instant words of reply are easy, but often unhelpful. They are swords to be employed by people who have the health and stamina for fencing – and, like it or not, I no longer have the energy or the agility for the sport, for I know it would be the death of me, or, at the very least, the ruin of my health.
And so I have changed. But has my edge gone dull or merely my temper? Where once I was angry, now I’m contemplative. Where once I was quick, now I am slow. Where once I had a meltdown, now I merely stew.
I am different, yes. I have one-tenth the energy I used to have, yet ten times the patience. I have half the mental ability, but half again more tolerance and love.
But are gains such as these recompense for the multitude of deficits that come with MS? Are my original vows made null and void, and has my misfortunate – which is also, by default, her misfortune – become the center and usurped my own original intentions?
To the first question, my answer would be no. To the second, it would be that I hope not.
We like to say, defiantly, that we will not be defined by disease. But defined we are – for definition lies in the appraisal of others. I am, in some quite essential ways, different than I used to be, and it is my disease that has made me different. I return to where I started. “You are different than you used to be”. There you have it. We work with the clay that happens to be in our hands. We create and recreate, according to the combined patterns of hopes, dreams and realities. I am who I am this moment. I’m working on who I will be from this moment on.
In every case, “now” has referred to changes she has perceived in the me who has MS as opposed to the me who did not. The me, in other words, whom she had married in 2006.
As usual, my answer to the comment was brief and essentially dismissive.
Yup, it’s the new, improved me, I said.
She made it clear, in a word or two, that she wasn’t so sure about the improved part, and then the subject trailed off in the usual way, like a wisp of momentary smoke or a passing scent of incense in the air.
Is it something that I don’t want to talk about, or is it something that she doesn’t want to talk about? Is she just making a statement of fact, as far as she sees it, or does she want me to explain myself?
This would require some thought, some introspection, a degree of honesty that might border not only on self-betrayal, but betrayal of all the promises I had made to her and to myself – to us - some eight years ago. I am strong and able. I will take care of you. I will be your strength and never your burden.
Harapan kamu adalah harapan saya; mimipian kamu adalah mimpian saya, I had said to her in her native tongue in my wedding vows. Your hopes are my hopes; your dreams are my dreams.
So where does my weakness, the failure of my body, my unasked for illness fit in to all this? How has it happened that I have become what I said I would not be; and what excuse can I offer?
How, exactly, have I changed? In many ways, I think – and these changes turn out to be a complex mix and intermix of physical disease processes, unwilling but necessary acknowledgement and conscious alterations in emotion, attitude and approach.
Recently, I talked to a friend, and fellow MS’er, about stress and how, over time, we learn to appreciate the detrimental power of its effect on MS. We have either to suffer continual relapses and/or worsening of symptoms or we have to change the way in which we negotiate stress. We protect ourself in the interest of the greatest benefit, and yet we may seem to others, especially to loved ones, suddenly detached, insufficiently concerned. Is this one change that my wife sees in me? Is she disappointed at a seeming unwillingness on my part to to engage in a really good shouting match, as I used to do? Does she take this for a lacking in the intensity of my love?
I don’t know the answer, and she probably doesn’t either.
I do care, of course, but now I try to breath first, take time, take advantage of silence. Instant words of reply are easy, but often unhelpful. They are swords to be employed by people who have the health and stamina for fencing – and, like it or not, I no longer have the energy or the agility for the sport, for I know it would be the death of me, or, at the very least, the ruin of my health.
And so I have changed. But has my edge gone dull or merely my temper? Where once I was angry, now I’m contemplative. Where once I was quick, now I am slow. Where once I had a meltdown, now I merely stew.
I am different, yes. I have one-tenth the energy I used to have, yet ten times the patience. I have half the mental ability, but half again more tolerance and love.
But are gains such as these recompense for the multitude of deficits that come with MS? Are my original vows made null and void, and has my misfortunate – which is also, by default, her misfortune – become the center and usurped my own original intentions?
To the first question, my answer would be no. To the second, it would be that I hope not.
We like to say, defiantly, that we will not be defined by disease. But defined we are – for definition lies in the appraisal of others. I am, in some quite essential ways, different than I used to be, and it is my disease that has made me different. I return to where I started. “You are different than you used to be”. There you have it. We work with the clay that happens to be in our hands. We create and recreate, according to the combined patterns of hopes, dreams and realities. I am who I am this moment. I’m working on who I will be from this moment on.
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